Arriving to Life & Passing Life On

artist julie dillon (2)

This module looks at systemic issues surrounding fertility, pregnancy and parenthood, including:

  • The conditions for passing life on
  • Woman’s & man’s role in reproduction; how to live them harmoniously
  • To become a parent or not: whose decision is it any way
  • Infertility & inability to conceive
  • Passing life on for childless persons
  • Issues for heterosexual and homosexual couples
  • Unwanted pregnancies & abortions
  • Dealing with a loss of pregnancy / loss of a child / vanished twin
  • IVF, fertility and technology
  • Concealed fatherhood, adoptions and step-parenting
  • Birth – a passage into Life

How do we allow life to come to us through our mother and through our father and through our ancestors regardless of anything that happened in our family system? How do we connect with the life line coming to us from afar? How do children arrive and how not? How to be fully alive and how to assist others to arrive to life? How to give a proper place to the unborn?

These and other issues we will explore through experiential processes and participants’ issues.

FACILITATOR: Alemka Dauskardt


DATE: 29. & 30.4.2023. for a course in English with Turkish translation

This online module is a part of our education program “Constellations according to Hellinger” and counts towards the diploma of this program. You need to register and pay for each module separately. You can attend only individual modules. Information about our other modules you can find HERE.


Workshops are offered on weekends, as 12 hours spread over Saturday and Sunday. CET time zone. 10.00 – 18.00  with plenty of breaks for your comfort.


ZOOM application which you can download HERE free of charge and a computer or laptop with a functioning camera and microphone.


For registration it is necessary to fill in and submit the Registration form below. Please note that your registration is valid only when confirmed by a payment of € 180 (or a discounted rate if you are eligible).

Payments should arrive a week before the starting date so that you receive an email with all the information for participation, e-materials and a Zoom link.


If we need to cancel the seminar, you will be fully refunded. If you can not attend, your fee is not refundable or transferable to any other person, but is valid for any future attendance at our programs of equal value.



the Turkish speaking program organizer Beril Öztunalı


Module “Passing Life On”

29. & 30.4.2023.

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Experiences from the workshop  “Passing Life On”

Istanbul, December 2019

We have realized that to pass life on, we have to arrive to life first, we have to say YES to our life with all the circumstances through which it reached us.

We had the womb represented and saw what systemic conditions make it healthy and ready to conceive, calling for the new life to come.

We understood that the mind is willing, but the body is wise, and that passion serves Life.

We saw how ancestors are excited about a new life coming and waiting eagerly to set their eyes on a newborn in their system.

We have seen how the deceased ancestor who gave the child away wants nothing else but for that child to live and to pass life on.

We looked at the systemic dynamics behind infertility, early menopause, and illnesses which prevent us from conceiving.

We faced the serious effects of abortion on our lives, and realized how deeply they go, for a woman, for a man and the siblings.

We considered the role of technology in procreation process and explored the motivation for adoption, and their systemic consequences.

We had a glimpse of the prenatal dynamic between twins in the womb, which sometimes turns into a survival struggle as they fight for space and their chance to come into the world. And we have seen the consequences when one of them vanishes, seemingly without a trace.

We saw how the rejection of a mother closes all doors for us.

We let ourselves experience the greatness of mothers who, together with our fathers, passed Life onto us, our blessed Life, the greatest gift of all.




Sistemik Dizilim Atölyesi

Bu dizilim grubu, aşağıdaki konular da dahil olmak üzere doğurganlık, hamilelik ve ebeveynlik konuları ile ilgilidir:

– Üremede kadının ve erkeğin rolü; nasıl uyumlu bir şekilde yaşanır?

– Bir ebeveyn olmalı mı olmamalı mı: nihayetinde bu kimin kararıdır?

– Kısırlık & hamile kalamamak, heteroseksüel ve homoseksüel çiftlerin durumu

– İstenmeyen hamilelikler&kürtajlar

– Hamileliğin sonlanması/bebek kaybı/kaybolan ikiz ile başa çıkmak

– Tüp bebek, doğurganlık ve teknoloji

– Gizli babalık, evlat edinme ve üvey ebeveynlik

– Doğum – yaşama geçiş

Katılımcılar, bu konularla ilgili kendi konuları üzerinde çalışabilirler. Herkes, yaşam için karşılanması gereken sistemik koşullar hakkında belirli bir içgörü kazanacaktır ve kişisel soruları üzerinde çalışsın ya da çalışmasın çok şey kazanacaktır. Erkekler, kadınlar, ebeveynler ve çocuksuz kişiler – herkes davetlidir!

Aile Dizimi öğrencileri için kredi olarak sayılacaktır.

Kolaylaştırıcı: Alemka Dauskardt

Alemka, Avrupa ve Avustralya’dan lisans üstü derecelere sahiptir. İlişki danışmanlığı, Gestalt terapi ve Sistemik Dizilim Çalışması üzerine özel eğitim almıştır. Bireysel ve grup terapisi, travma çalışması, kültürlerarası çalışmalar ve aile ve diğer sistemlere uyarlanmış dizilim çalışmalarında deneyimlidir.

Sistemik Dizilim Çalışmalarıyla ilk defa 1995’te tanıştı, kişisel ve profesyonel hayatının bütün alanlarında bu çalışmadan ilham aldı. Alemka, Sistemik Dizilim Çalışmalarının kurucusu Bert Hellinger’den ve bu çalışmanın diğer öncü uygulayıcılarından kapsamlı düzeyde eğitim aldı. Bu yaklaşımı yıllardır figürlerle bireysel terapilerinde kullanmaktadır. Eşi Max ile birlikte danışmanlık seanslarının yanısıra atölyeler ve eğitimler de sunmaktadır.