Partnerstvo ima prioritet nad roditeljstvom (CRO)

Jedna od zakonitosti ljubavi koje vidimo u konstelacijama je da partnerski odnos muškarca i žene ima prioritet nad roditeljskim odnosom između njih i njihove djece. Svoju energiju za podizanje djece oni crpe iz njihove ljubavi jedno za drugo. Djeca se osjećaju najsigurnije kada otac voli njihovu majku u njima i kada majka voli njihovog oca u njima. Za djecu nije dobro ako se sva pažnja jednog roditelja usredotoči na njih i ako ljubav za njih mimoilazi (isključuje) drugog roditelja.

 

THE COUPLE RELATIONSHIP HAS PRECEDENCE OVER BEING A PARENT

‘The couple relationship has precedence over being a parent. True, the couple relationship is oriented towards parenthood, but being a parent is a progression from the relationship, therefore the relationship has precedence. So the man creates the energy to be a father out of his love for the woman. And if he loves the children, he loves what he sees of the woman in the children and vice versa.

The woman has the energy to be a mother because she feels the man at her side and takes strength from him to be there for her children. This succeeds when she loves what she sees of the man in the children, when her love for them is a progression from her love for him. Children will be happy if their parents love each other in their children. Children are never happier than when they experience their parents as a couple. Then they are really happy, and comforted.’

Bert Hellinger